Have you smashed through life like a supermarket shop on a Saturday night, proudly ticking off each item on your list? After all, each tick is one step closer to happiness, right?
Go travelling. Tick.
Buy a house. Tick.
Get married. Tick.
Have children. Tick.
You’ve done everything in life expected of you. Yet you don’t know who you are. Despite being successful in every area of life, you feel crippled by self-doubt and shame.
Shame that you’re not good enough. Shame that you’re not coping as well as you should. Shame that you should be enjoying life because you have everything you think you ever wanted, yet you just want to run away and hide.
And how do I know this?
I was this woman too.
It was only when I was introduced to hypnotherapy through my coach, that I realised:
I had been acting UNCONSCIOUSLY my entire life.
My unconscious mind had lapped up society’s expectations and definitions of a successful life, and in turn, what made me a worthy human being. I realised that my pursuit of academic achievements and status-driven job was all down to my unconscious mind’s desire to try and prove itself as a human worthy of love and acceptance. My relationship with money, my body, myself – it was all dictated by unconscious thought-patterns that I had no idea even existed, let alone were controlling my every move.
Once I was able to access these unconscious beliefs, I was able to challenge them and ultimately make positive changes that enabled me to live life on my own terms.
And no, that didn’t involve taking time out to go trekking in the Andes to ‘find myself’ as so many people advocate (although that would be pretty cool!). I couldn’t. I’ve got two young kids. But I dug deep; I did the raw, uncomfortable work; I faced things about myself that felt shameful and cringeworthy. And I came out the other side. Me. Not the ‘academic me’, or the ‘fit me’, or the ‘successful me’. But the ‘me’ that no longer had to live up to labels or ideals; the ‘me’ that suddenly realised that anything was possible – I didn’t have to do anything. And that, my friend, was liberating.
If this is speaking to you, then I’m telling you: If I can do it, so can you. If you can throw yourself wholeheartedly into raw, uncomfortable, and – quite frankly – little-bit-shit-scared work with me, there’s no telling what you can achieve.
So have a look around my website, and feel free to just bob me a message or book a free call.